Btw I don't identify with #gaybut I recognize my proximity to the community and how I will be seen as only gay despite my sexuality being more than that. I see the LGBT/Queer community as my own people even if I don't identify with the terms, if that makes sense? I'd rather be #TwoSpirit.
Kind of like how I don't identify with #Spanish/ #Hispanic/ #nicantlacaor #latinobut I still recognize those people as my own, and I also recognize that whether I identify or not, I will be placed into these groups of gay and Latino. It's important to not let how others perceive you to affect your life, but it's also very important to have the awareness of how you are seen and treated based on how you are categorized. Life isn't fair, but you gotta know how people play the game. My point being that it's important to decolonize our identity, but it's more important to remember our people and where we come from, and just because our people haven't become "woke" or choose not to decolonize, it doesn't mean we must push our people away, division has historically made us weak, knowledge is power but acceptance is strength.